We love having a 3 yr old and in fact 2.5 yrs + has been our favorite age so far. I love the fact that when we meet her she will already be a little person, with her own personality, likes and dislikes. She will instantly be able to fit into our family and lifestyle! Davis and I take daily walks, ride bikes, go to the park and she will be able to join us and have a great time also.
We realize that toddler adoption and virtual twinning will pose a separate set of challenges. Virtual twinning is 2 children whose ages are within 9 months of each other, who are not genetically related that are raised together as siblings. I have read a lot of literature on this topic and it is overall not usually suggested. However, most of the literature is focused on adopting 2 same aged children at one time or adopting and having a biological infant at the same time. This is much different than what we are doing. We have a happy, attached, stable 3 yr old now and will be adding a child who will need more attention (cognitive, language development, social, etc) than he currently requires. I do believe Davis will be ecstatic to have someone to play with and will not see her as a threat in any way. He is a very talkative, outgoing child and meets friends everywhere we go. Needless to say, I know we will have issues, but I don't foresee making the decision to adopt a child the same age to be anything we can't handle. I also take comfort in having the knowledge of how a normal 3 yr old acts.
Doesn't he reek with happiness??
We are also excited about spending time in Aktobe with Davis and our new child. Having Davis will be a great ice breaker for all of us! We will have a solid 4 hours a day at the orphanage to have uninterrupted play! That doesn't happen too often at home and we look forward to this time to spend with each other.
2 comments:
Davis does just reek with happiness! Such a wonderful thing and just goes to show how content and loved your new child will be as well.
I know it is tough to adjust the parameters for the child you have expected and have pictured in your mind for so long, but as everyone in the adoption world says, the child that is meant to be yours will be. Sounds like you are more than prepared to handle the issues for whatever age the child might be.
I hope you see your LOI soon and can head to Aqtobe to meet Davis little sister!
Hi guys,
Just checking in to see how you are doing. Are you still looking at November? I know this wait is super hard -- believe me I know! It will be a distant memory someday, I can promise you that. I can't believe you're going to be in Aqtobe soon. Our Aqtobe!
I'm glad that you are opening up your paramaters and feel confident that Davis will be do a great job with a "virtual twin." He does look like he is just so full of sunshine.
Sending you good wishes. Please keep me posted.
Post a Comment